How To Forget: A Daughter's Memoir

How To Forget: A Daughter's Memoir❮Reading❯ ➷ How To Forget: A Daughter's Memoir ➯ Author Kate Mulgrew – In this profoundly honest and examined memoir about returning to Iowa to care for her ailing parents the star of Orange Is the New Black and author of Born with Teeth takes us on an unexpected journey In this profoundly honest and examined memoir Forget: A PDF/EPUB ¶ about returning to Iowa to care for her ailing parents the star of Orange Is the New Black and author of Born with Teeth takes us on an unexpected journey of loss betrayal and the transcendent nature of a daughter’s love for her parents They say you can’t go home again But when her father is diagnosed How To Epub / with aggressive lung cancer and her mother with atypical Alzheimer’s New York based actress Kate Mulgrew returns to her hometown in Iowa to spend time with her parents and care for them in the time they have leftThe months Kate spends with her parents in Dubuue—by turns turbulent tragic and joyful—lead her to reflect on each of their lives and how they shaped her own To Forget: A Kindle Ö Those ruminations are transformed when in the wake of their deaths Kate uncovers long kept secrets that challenge her understanding of the unconventional Irish Catholic household in which she was raisedBreathtaking and powerful laced with the author’s irreverent wit How to Forget is a considered portrait of a mother and a father an emotionally powerful memoir that demonstrates how love fuses children and parents and an honest examination of family memory and indelible loss.

Kate Mulgrew is an American actress noted Forget: A PDF/EPUB ¶ for her roles as Captain Kathryn Janeway on Star Trek Voyager Mary Ryan on Ryans Hope and most recently Galina Red Reznikov on Orange Is the New Black She has performed in numerous television shows theater productions and movies She is the winner of a Golden Satellite Award a Saturn Award and an Obie Award and has How To Epub / been nominated for a Golden.

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  • How To Forget: A Daughter's Memoir
  • Kate Mulgrew
  • 19 July 2016
  • 9780062846853

10 thoughts on “How To Forget: A Daughter's Memoir

  1. Char says:

    Narrated by the author HOW TO FORGET A DAUGHTER'S MEMOIR is an incredibly intimate and detailed account of how Kate Mulgrew and her family cared and provided for their sick parents In brief her father had an aggressive form of lung cancer that spread throughout his body and her mother had Alzheimer's disease I felt like I had to read this book as my dad also died from an aggressive form of lung cancer and my mom is battling Alzheimer's disease right now I read Mulgrew's previous memoir BORN WITH TEETH and I enjoyed it She narrated that book as well She's an EXCELLENT narrator overall; I loved her performance of Joe Hill's NOS4A2I found her account to be poignant and sad but I was also a bit peeved and I'll tell you why This is a purely personal thing and maybe it has a tinge of envy on my part to be honest In America it is much easier to get old get sick or get old AND sick if you have money The choices available to you when you have money are varied and numerous When you are poor or even middle class that is not the case Not everyone can take leave from their job to nurse a sick parent Not everyone can hire people to move in with their parents to help take some of the burden off the family Not everyone can buy an entire house to make caring for a family member easier either It irked me that Ms Mulgrew never acknowledged such in this book Gets up on soapbox Let me be clear I am not envious of Kate's money she's an excellent actress narrator and writer she earned it What I am envious of is the UALITY OF CARE that Kate and her family were able to provide to their parents Being a working classmiddle class person I cannot even begin to provide my mother the care she deserves uality of medical care and end of life care should not be based on wallet size Steps down from soapboxThat aside I'm glad that I listened to this book I feel less alone I feel like other people have gone through what I am going through right now and somehow that helps lessen my pain I think I'm also able to empathize a bit with my mom's situation though I'm not exactly sure why Maybe it was viewing what she is going through through a different set of eyes Whatever the reason I found myself patient yesterday with my mom and I think that made it easier on both of us I recommend this book especially to those trying to deal with sick parents while still trying to work and maintain their own sanity If only for the reason that HOW TO FORGET makes you feel less alone Because that is no small thing Thank you to my public library for the free audio download Libraries RULE

  2. Jenny (Reading Envy) says:

    I didn't read Kate Mulgrew's earlier memoir Born with Teeth but this is really much about her parents particularly the ends of their lives and how she and her siblings were present for those long and painful periods of deterioration and change Mulgrew is perceptive but really only talks about herself in relation to everyone else maybe that's life in a giant family It's a nice comparison of stoic Midwesterners and their New York City actress daughter I had a copy from William Morrow Books through Netgalley and it came out May 21 2019

  3. Elyse Walters says:

    “He died first uickly and uietly It was like my father to outwit my mother even at the end” This is a tender felt story of the death of Kate’s parentsandsiblings dealingsmessy flawed and realCoffee cigarettes vodka were relished by her father Kate’s dad was 83 years old Kate’s brother Joe called to share the news Their dad had cancerJoe knew that out of all the siblings Kate was the one in the best position to get their father the care he needed And wow what a page turning intimate outstanding memoir Kate wrote I gobbled it in one restless night of not being able to sleep Kate Mulgrew is a screen and stage actress She was the star in the series “Orange is the New Black” She also wrote the the book called “Born with Teeth” a book I also want to read Kate was playing the role of Katherine Hepburn in a stage production in West Palm Beach when she first got the news from about her dad How she went on stage that night is beyond me Such a beautiful memoir about parents siblings eight siblings and about returning home to Iowa Kate’s father had lung cancer that took him in three weeks Her mother had Alzheimer’s disease She died two years after her father I’m such a sucker for a family tale of sincerity like this one is We learned about Kate’s parents and her siblings two died; heartbreaking for the entire familyThere was so much heartbreak in this familyButbetween the conflicts secrets silences loss constant family noise children suffering and dying there was love This is the first book I’ve read by Kate Mulgrew She’s not only a great actress but she’s a great storyteller Reflective harrowing and intimately revealing

  4. Marina Kravchuk says:

    After reading “Born With Teeth” Kate Mulgrew’s first book and a gem of a memoir I could not wait to hear that a second one would be coming“How to Forget” is a tremendous book Not unlike the first memoir I have swallowed it in a matter of hours and then found myself needing several days to be able to articulate a fitting opinion on it than simply “heart rending”This memoir is first and foremost about the lives and deaths of Kate’s parents and about how her relationship with either one of them had shaped her own life A truly no holds barred journey through memories in turn fond and poignant full of wit and of profound sadness each one of them told in almost devastatingly vivid and starkly frank detail Kate has an extraordinary gift as a storyteller; her narrative so engaging it is impossible not to sink into each chapter I have to stress that as captivating as these stories are the subject matter of the book is very real bound to affect many readers and I cannot help but admire Kate’s fortitude not only in living through these experiences but also in sharing them as deeply personal as they are

  5. Bookgyrl says:

    I hardly ever read memoirs or biographies but sometimes they catch my eye In this case it is the second book by Kate Mulgrew an actress most will recognize as Captain Kathryn Janeway in Star Trek Voyager or recent in the series 'Orange is the new black' A few years back she wrote 'Born with teeth' which was uite entertaining She is a good and engaging author Again this is a memoir but not so much about Kate herself but about the relationship with her parents She takes us on a vivid journey through their lives and deaths Very detailed at times very amusing or very sad but always very entertaining Her writing about experiences that are very private and emotional kept me glued to the pages I believe her stories will resonate with many Pain sorrow joy and laughter but above all else love and respect all come together in this book I reuested and received a digital ARC via Edelweiss This is my honest and voluntary review

  6. Moonkiszt says:

    How to ForgetFamilies are messy They are tender and precious; what you work and fight for; the tribe that holds the keys to Home that place from which you run or to which you return at a run or in a reluctant walk or on a nostalgic shuffle You know they have to let you in if you present yourself however you present yourself Families give you your first glimpses of how Pairs are going to feature in your life LoveHate HappySad HungryFull HisHers EasyDifficult ComfortableUncomfortable TrustDon’tKate Mulgrew’s book separated into two parts the first about Dad and the second about Mom Within its pages she describes the love affair that started her parents’ family her own natal family where Capt Janeway was simply a part she played one of many in that means to an end “a job” Like her I went from one day being as I always had been the “kid” to full blown caregiver for my parents as they aged and passed It was easy to follow along Kate’s story and sympathize remember and pine There’s an adjustment when you realize that what you had in your crazy family unit really was unrepeatable priceless and rare You wonder if it was enough is there a way back to it without giving up what you’ve gained in the meantime and one is left at the Dead End sign that turns you around or forces you to create a new wayI appreciated the author’s caring about capturing moments in her writing and while there were assumptions as to what her muted parents may have been thinking clearly as their child she was as expert as any human would be on that topic having spent her childhood memorizing them Narratives move an event along but the moments carefully presented with all their nooks and crannies are what makes a Tale complete with sunshine and shadows Kate Mulgrew did a very respectable job of this particularly dicey topic Writing of one’s own parents falling apart cannot be an undemanding task and there are so many ways to lose a willing audience even when it is the truth that is told She kept me engaged to the very last word I get it Captain Life is a worthy struggle Death is too

  7. Stuart says:

    This is a fantastic memoir Gorgeously written and incredibly intimate Kate Mulgrew details the last few months of her parents’ lives as her father battled cancer and her mother Alzheimer’s Interspersed throughout those present day memories are stories of her parents from when she was a child and when they themselves were young how they met and grew together and how she and her siblings’ relationships with them like all of us were at once loving and conflicted This memoir is heartfelt poignant and moving and I cannot recommend it highly enough

  8. Kazzie says:

    I have read Kate Mulgrew's premiere memoir Born With Teeth roughly five times and I had recently read it in April When 'How To Forget' was announced and that it was about Mulgrew's relationship with her parents I was instantly intrigued I have been following Mulgrew's career for close to twenty years and I have heard a myriad of stories about her parents her upbringing her siblings and her mother's battle with Alzheimer's Disease Where 'Born With Teeth' barely touched about that disease I was interested to see how 'How To Forget' would expand upon itMulgrew has an undeniable gift with words She is fiercely articulate and I always find myself needing a dictionary close to hand when reading anything by her In 'How To Forget' I found myself being witness to my own thoughts appearing on a page written by someone that I have admired for two thirds of my life That surprised me and took me aback I found myself being witness to a new and heartbreakingly vulnerable side to Mulgrew She does not try to hide how her parents' illnesses and deaths broke her heart and broke the hearts of her siblings She is able to articulate with such skill something that I didn't know that I had felt and did not know how to verbalise when I watched my own father pass away from a terminal disease This book truly struck a chord with me I annotated this book as I read and I am so glad that I did because it helped me to absorb it and make peace with my own frustrations and pains It is unwaveringly honest heartbreaking poignant and in places wickedly hilarious Kate Mulgrew's strength throughout this book is truly inspiring She has never painted herself as a saint in either of her memoirs She gives over to the reader a very personal subjective and vulnerable narrative and you can tell that she needed to get this off of her chest There were moments when I wanted to reach for the tissues and that I simply wanted to give her the biggest hug imaginable Even if you are not a fan of Kate Mulgrew or have been a fan for years I would highly recommend this book For someone that has lost a parent to a degenerative and wasting disease Mulgrew's words made an impact that I will never forget and will find difficult to describe

  9. Kasa Cotugno says:

    My review of Mulgrew's first memoir ended with the wish that she had not ended it 13 years prior to publication since there was still so much to learn about her At that time she said she'd had to wait until the deaths of both parents before writing her history and this book is an explanation almost an apologia since it is her parents' stories and hers only as it relates to them and to her seven siblingsThe Mulgrews of Dubuue were a rambunctious but well regarded family not civic leaders merely midwesterners that were illuminated by the fact that their mother was from back East an intimate of the Kennedy family an aspiring artist Kate tells about her father's early history probably because she had familiarity with that branch being local Her portraits of her siblings is uneven some are not individualized at all and given very little pagespace She was only 18 when she followed her dream to NY reversing the story of her mother but family ties were close and as she rose to take her place as one of the most respected actors of her generation and managed her personal life she still held her family dear providing financial and moral support when needed The first part deals with her father's history illness and rapid death because he went first Her mother stricken with atypical Alzheimer's disease had been deteriorating for six years by that point and the second part minutely and wrenchingly describes Joan's decline and eventual mental paralysis I can see why Kate felt she had to step aside from the progress of her own life and examine those who shaped her I am hopeful she will continue with her own story in a future volume

  10. Rosie O& says:

    I just can't get over how touching and relevant this beautifully written book is buy it read it you will be profoundly moved

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