The To-Do List and Other Debacles



The To-Do List and Other DebaclesThrillingly Honest, Funny, Incisive And Hopeful, This Is The Perfect Gateway Into A Discussion On Mental Health Marian Keyes Truly One Of The Most Powerful Books About Mental Health That I Ve Ever Read Daisy BuchananOne Of The Independent S Top Ten Millennial Memoirs Of How Not To Be Good Let Me List The Ways Are You A Woman Do You Make To Do Lists To Stop You Losing Your Mind Have You Ever Cried In The Toilets At Work, Had A Meltdown In The Supermarket, Or Gone Off The Rails At A Hen Party And Have You Ever Been Saved From Any Of The Above By Your Truly Brilliant Friends If You Ve Answered Yes To Any Of These Questions, Then This Is The Book For You A Moving, Funny And Brutally Honest Memoir Of One Woman S Millennial Misadventures, The To Do List And Other Debacles Follows Amy Jones On Her Journeys Through Friendship, Marriage And Mental Health Disasters In A Story That S As Relatable As It Is Riotous

Amy Jones was born in Wales in 1990, but moved to Warwickshire when she was seven She lived in North London from 2012 2019, and now lives in Leicestershire with her husband, her baby and her cat She has been writing since she was old enough to hold a pen everything from fantasy stories about mermaid fairy hybrids who live in her curtain rail, short horror stories described by one teacher as really creepy , or a 70,000 word Harry Potter fanfiction describing a torrid relationship between Ginny Weasley and Draco Malfoy Most recently she worked as AV Producer for The Pool where, alongside making the site s videos and podcasts, she was known for her articles on feminism, body positivity, and 18th century cartoons about the devil being scared of a woman s hairy vulva.

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  • Hardcover
  • 336 pages
  • The To-Do List and Other Debacles
  • Amy Jones
  • English
  • 04 April 2019
  • 1529103428

10 thoughts on “The To-Do List and Other Debacles

  1. Dee-Cee It& says:

    I don t know about you but I write lists for a lot of things, shopping lists, housework lists and the main ones are reading lists, what I want to read, what I ve read etc There s nothingsatisfying than ticking things off, it makes you feel like you ve accomplished something and Amy Jones is a list maker, every day she has a list for all the things she wants to accomplish that day, everything is added to the list whether it be taking a shower, meeting friends or cooking a meal In The To I don t know about you but I write lists for a lot of things, shopping lists, housework lists and the main ones are reading lists, what I want to read, what I ve read etc There s nothingsatisfying than ticking things off, it makes you feel like you ve accomplished something and Amy Jones is a list maker, every day she has a list for all the things she wants to accomplish that day, everything is added to the list whether it be taking a shower, meeting friends or cooking a meal In The To Do List and Other Debacles , Amy Jones takes us through a very difficult part of her life and anyone reading this will feel some kind of connection to Amy, I know I certainly did We ve all had body confidence issues, we ve all felt like what we re doing isn t quite good enough and Amy Jones has all of these andIt was actually quite frustrating at times reading this book, Amy is putting herself down, feeling like she isn t worthy or a bit of a failure and I could see she wasn t, in the book her friends and husband could see she wasn t and I wanted to reassure her, tell her she was great and to stop being so hard on herself but obviously that wasn t possible and I had to keep reading and see how she dealt or didn t deal with things in some cases Honest and quite raw at times this book gave me a lot to think about as I m sure it will with everyone who reads it Depression is a bitch, it really is and even though it s a tough read at times it s a blooming good one as well I had so many emotions floating round while reading and the belly chuckles, oh boy.The To Do List and Other Debacles is a powerful book about mental health, it s about getting the help when you need it and it s about hope, friendship and love It s a book that will have you laughing and crying and crying with laughter It s a truly inspiring story that everyone should read and definitely take something away from it

  2. Clair Sharpe says:

    In The To Do List and Other Debacles, video producer and acclaimed writer Amy Jones lifts the lid on what like is really like for 20 and 30 something women today covering everything from work to friendship to love to body image.I must admit, I signed up for this blog tour purely based on the title and the cover of this book and until I sat down to read it, I didn t really know what to expect I think I thought it might be something to do with using the art of list writing to help get my act tog In The To Do List and Other Debacles, video producer and acclaimed writer Amy Jones lifts the lid on what like is really like for 20 and 30 something women today covering everything from work to friendship to love to body image.I must admit, I signed up for this blog tour purely based on the title and the cover of this book and until I sat down to read it, I didn t really know what to expect I think I thought it might be something to do with using the art of list writing to help get my act together It isn t about this, although Amy does use lists a lot in her life to help manage things It becomes clear by the end of the book that perhaps they aren t the best thing for her This a memoir of a short period of her life and my goodness it is funny She is a fantastic writer who draws you into her confidence and makes you want to become her best friend or maybe I just wanted to mother her But there is a very serious side to this book Amy has for some years suffered with her mental health She has a lovely husband and a cat, some great friends and is successful in her job but in her head she just doesn t feel she is as good as everyone else.What I realised as I was reading it, was that many things I thought were only in my head, were perhaps being thought of by other women as well I m 46, so a bit older than maybe the target audience of this book, but I found it immensely eye opening I think some of Amy s issues also apply to me but as I ve got older I care a little less about them The first half of the book, is like a diary of Amy s life She talks about her struggles with her weight including body envy and the right food choices She talks about always striving for the perfect Instagram moment and how annoyed she feels when a weekend with her husband isn t as picture perfect as she hoped She talks about feeling unappreciated in her job but having no confidence in applying for anything else Then after a hen weekend, which is about as far out of her comfort zone as she can get, she has a breakdown When she gets home, she realises she needs help She starts seeing a counsellor and we hear about these sessions and how they help her, and although she isn t completely recovered by the end of the book she starts to get a better idea of how to cope with her feelings.A bold, brave and honest memoir that is laugh out loud funny while being deeply moving A great read, especially for those of the millennial generation who may be struggling but will hopefully realise they are certainly not alone

  3. Lisa says:

    An absolute delight I laughed, cried and resonated with so much of it She writes as if she s your friend and it s such an enjoyable read Brilliant for anyone who has felt adrift and in need of some humourous guidance

  4. Abigail says:

    I picked this up at the library simply because the front cover is designed as a list and I love lists Sigh I really am that shallow.In this book, we follow Amy Jones through a difficult period in her life, covering love, friendships, body image, career and comparison and accomplishment, and their impact on mental health I connected with Amy immediately she is so open and real about her life and her thoughts that it s difficult not to think you actually know her.So, Amy and her lists I lov I picked this up at the library simply because the front cover is designed as a list and I love lists Sigh I really am that shallow.In this book, we follow Amy Jones through a difficult period in her life, covering love, friendships, body image, career and comparison and accomplishment, and their impact on mental health I connected with Amy immediately she is so open and real about her life and her thoughts that it s difficult not to think you actually know her.So, Amy and her lists I love making lists but I d never seen it as being problematic before On the first page, Amy says that lists are little lifebuoys that keep me afloat which she writes to help her feel like she achieves something, to make herself feel better, and so she feels like she s in control Amen to that She s also terrified of forgetting things which is my fear too for me, forgetting to take milk to work so I have to eat cornflakes with water for breakfast instead is on the same level as forgetting to pay my council tax bill, forgetting to collect my babysitting kids from school, or forgetting an appointment and being shunted to the bottom of the NHS waiting list This , Amy writes, is the cage I had built for myself Yup.Reading this book, I cried at least 3 times a combination of empathy, self pity, and the conclusion of a dawning realisation that I am not OK That in itself should tell you this is a good book I did, however, have a few problems hence 4 stars, not 5.1 There was waffle Some of it was fun waffle, some of it I skimmed who wore what, the minute details of other people s lives and conversations, the descriptions of exactly what happened when probably a metaphor for anxiety, which made me anxious in itself It wasn t filler per se, but some of it felt in the way.2 Nothing truly ground breaking was revealed other than the fact that an overreliance on lists is not healthy This was a memoir, not a self help book Maybe other people gotout of it shrugs 3 I just said it s a memoir, but parts have been fictionalised Amy writes that it s entirely made up It s raw and unapologetic, and very honest but that honesty is blurred.And finally, less of a complaint Amy tells her therapist that how well everyone else is doing is the only barometer I have for how well I should be doing That barometer, of course, is what everyone else is portraying of themselves the breezy persona that covers deep seated anxieties, the outfits which hide the discomfort we all feel about our own bodies, and the social media posts of our perfect lives.It isn t new information that Instagram is not reality, but what I both like and disliked was the unfiltered honesty of the book you haven t showered for 3 days me neither and that s kind of OK and the unconscious comparisons I made Amy goes swimming before work why don t I have the motivation to do that But that is what society has taught us to do, and that is the problem being unpacked Also knowing that everyone else thinks this kinda stuff about other people means they are thinking it about me too Oh, and it made me both sad and grateful that I don t have a group of female friends OK back to the book I really enjoyed it I read it in 48 hours, and I ll be thinking about it for a while yet The blurb says it s perfect for women who make lists to stop you losing your mind , who cry and have meltdowns, and who have been saved by friends But really I think it s for anyone who needs a brutal insight into the state of mental health among millennial women We re a group who are told, in endless contradictions, that we aren t enough, but we re too much we can do anything and we re capable of , but there aren t any opportunities we re perfect as we are but we could be better if we did bought changed x and we re all in this together.If we re truly all in this together, we might as well be open and vulnerable about it reading this book helped me realise that I make lists because I m scared of forgetting something amongst all the noise in my brain, and I can t forget anything if I want to pretend I m coping as well as everyone else Because, above all, I m very much not OK, and this book made me question is anyone

  5. Hanna says:

    First published at Booking in Heels.The To Do List isor less about Amy Jones struggles with her mental health sometimes up, sometimes down, but always relatable This is illustrated with the use of illustrated to do lists first her intended goals, and then followed by what she actually managed to achieve Amy uses these to manage her day and her emotions, to variable effect Whilst I felt these did become slightly repetitive, they were unique and managed to break up the prose in a whi First published at Booking in Heels.The To Do List isor less about Amy Jones struggles with her mental health sometimes up, sometimes down, but always relatable This is illustrated with the use of illustrated to do lists first her intended goals, and then followed by what she actually managed to achieve Amy uses these to manage her day and her emotions, to variable effect Whilst I felt these did become slightly repetitive, they were unique and managed to break up the prose in a whimsical manner.For a memoir style book about mental health, The To Do List is hilarious Not the to do lists themselves, but the self deprecating, informal way in which Amy Jones writes I genuinely giggled out loud to myself on multiple occasions On looking back at my list of quotes, however, it turns out that I didn t write down a single, funny one You re just going to have to trust that this book is just as amusing as I say it is.The reason for that is, as much as I loved the humour, it wasn t the main reason for the high rating It was because of how much I damn well related to this book I ve suffered with depression and anxiety for most of my adult life, as have a large portion of us What makes this so interesting, is that Amy Jones refers to a lot of thought patterns and niggling doubts that I also feel, and which I hadn t clicked were a symptom Honestly, at times, it was like she peered into my head and scrawled down exactly how I have felt The detail and the nuance she has captured when recording these episodes is impressive, and I simply cannot imagine how she got it all down during a period when she wasn t currently feeling all that It s astounding I don t remember how long it took for me to fall asleep But I do remember listening to his sleep and letting impotent rage churn in my chest Rage at him for snoring, rage at myself for listening to it rather than disturb him, rage at how the day had gone I listened to Garry s snoring and the jittery, uncomfortable energy racing through my blood I felt sad, and heavy, and desperate And, as I lay there in the dark, I listened to the voice in mthe depths of my brain wich explained, patiently, how I was fundamentally wrong The problem must be me, it whispered I am ruining everything My crappy life is my own damn fault, and I m trapped in it I m going to keep fucking things up for myself and for the people I love most forever, and there s nothing I can do to change it It was this thought that held me in its arms and rocked me to sleep, and this thought which chased itself round my dreams all night The problem is me The problem is me My one criticism was the ending It s difficult and probably a bit unfair to complain about the ending of a memoir, when it s perfectly feasible that maybe everything did just sort itself out like that The To Do List just ends a bit too nicely She has all these revelations about her friends, her appearance and her job, and just feels better This is after some NHS counselling sessions and she just say that she expects her struggles will come back, but she hopes that she now has the tools to be able to deal with iteffectively And I hope she does But it felt unrealistic and unhelpful I realise it s not a self help book or anything like that, but the ending was just very sudden.I really did love The To Do List and Other Debacles I ll definitely be purchasing a copy as well as following any other books that Amy Jones writes which I hope she does For an interesting, hilarious, relatable foray into mental health, I really can t recommend this highly enough

  6. Julie says:

    These are hard won lessons in life, love and losing my mind , all seen through the eyes of Amy Jones, contemporary woman and entirely honest narrator of a fictional version of mental health issues This is not really a self help book, though it does include a section of Useful Links for help with mental health issues It is perhaps difficult to sort fact from fiction in this book, but ultimately that does not matter as it is such a strong testament to the real everyday problems of living with These are hard won lessons in life, love and losing my mind , all seen through the eyes of Amy Jones, contemporary woman and entirely honest narrator of a fictional version of mental health issues This is not really a self help book, though it does include a section of Useful Links for help with mental health issues It is perhaps difficult to sort fact from fiction in this book, but ultimately that does not matter as it is such a strong testament to the real everyday problems of living with body image problems, depression and even suicidal impulses It would appeal to anyone who looks on social media or just around themselves at friends and others who seem to be winning at life, especially in terms of jobs, clothing, confidence and so muchIt is about those familiar questions of whether certain foods are healthy or provoke feelings of guilt, if the present job is the only option, why clothes and other things always fail, why even changing energy supplier seems like a bridge too far Featuring events in the life of a woman who seems to have so much, apart from mental wellbeing, this is a fascinating study of what it can feel like to live in the twenty first century I was pleased to have the opportunity to read and review this unusual and timely book.The book opens with Amy rather mournfully going through her latest to do list, a list of things she has assembled that seem rather obvious, but such is her mental state that she proposes to do mindful baking as well as put the washing on She realises that her coping strategy of writing lots of lists can make sure that she remembers what she must achieve, as well as give as give a sense of completion when she does manage to tick things off As she struggles to think through what she can do before going out, it is obvious that she is struggling with every task When she meets her friends, we discover that they care deeply about her , and do their best to support her She analyses what she finds scary talking to a large group of people or appearing on camera does not worry her, but simple pieces of life administration makes her anxious Her relationship with her husband is strong, despite his shift work which means he often sleeps when she is at a loose end, or works at the weekend Thus she has a lot of time alone, and looks at social media to see her friends and others enjoying photogenic moments At specific times she really struggles she becomes so upset at a hen weekend that she comes to the realisation that she must seek professional help This is a terrifically honest book, as Amy talks about swimming and looking at other people, her family and their quarrels, her work and reactions to everyday situations.There is a lot of humour in this book which eases the difficult subject matter The members of her family are frequently very funny, especially the argumentative grandmothers This is a book which is often painfully honest, which makes it a good read, sometimes uncomfortably so, as Amy plunges into despair I found it a fascinating read, giving new insights into another person s mindset, and finding some recognisable elements of discomfort with some everyday situations This is an immensely powerful book, with some humour, some hope, but a lot of genuine friendship and love It can affect the way we look at the world, and reassure us that we are not alone

  7. Sharon says:

    I love a list I will quite happily compile a list for anything shopping list, birthday list, books to be read list.if it can be added to a list then it does So you can imagine my sheer delight when I saw this book The author takes the reader through a very difficult time in her life and in her mental health For her, making lists and ticking things off the lists kept her sane The book doesn t just cover times in the author s life where she has suffered with mental health problems, but it I love a list I will quite happily compile a list for anything shopping list, birthday list, books to be read list.if it can be added to a list then it does So you can imagine my sheer delight when I saw this book The author takes the reader through a very difficult time in her life and in her mental health For her, making lists and ticking things off the lists kept her sane The book doesn t just cover times in the author s life where she has suffered with mental health problems, but it also covers other issues that are probablynormal life stresses bills to pay and just growing up in general Everyone who s anyone would be able to find something in this book which they could relate to and go yeah, I do that or I ve thought that I know I foundthan enough examples and that was just in the first couple of chapters The mental health issue though is the main theme running through this book and as you re reading it you feel like you are on the same emotional rollercoaster that the author was on To be honest, I felt every emotion for her and whilst this book was full of laughter, it had me in tears at times also It s a very honest and genuine account of what the author went through and having been through similar it did bring back memories and I could really connect with some of the stories For me it was interesting to see what mental health issues look like from someone else s perspective and how, at times I may seem to other people At the beginning of each chapter is the author s to do lists If it had to be done that day, it went on the list I loved these parts and felt it broke up each chapter nicely A word of warning though, the book does have some bad language so if you are offended by this, perhaps this isn t the book for you It does though have some powerful messages and some inspiring thoughts which stay with you long after you have finished the book I would definitely recommend this book Thanks to the author for sharing her story

  8. Claire says:

    God I love Amy s writing This is a fictionalised memoir about mental health, being a woman in your twenties and feeling like you re failing at everything, and about trying to cope through endless to do lists It s true to life, sad, and heartwarming all at the same time the story is unflinchingly honest about mental health, body image and not feeling like you re enough.

  9. Lex says:

    I read the first two thirds of this when I got the proof a couple of months ago and then got sidetracked for a while but just finished it today and it s BRILLIANT Amy is hilarious, and brutally honest It s nice to know I m not the only one thinking all these things, and that there s light at the end of the tunnel.

  10. Cath says:

    Lovely brilliant fun book, I laughed a lot with some of the excerpts of the book, I just love how the author put witty fun points for a book that s about a very important and serious topic This book creates awareness of the different aspects of mental health and it s a good way to understand mental illness from a perspective of someone who isnt a doctor but actually living it.

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